How many times did it happen for you to go out on a date with someone you have never seen before in your life? I assume you have gone on a blind date at least once in your life, or you went out with a person you have just met. It happens. Usually, it’s a beautiful thing. But what happens when you and that person become close, and the relationship develops into something more serious. I mean, how well do you know that person? Is it enough to entrust him or her with all the details of your life?
I am not trying to be dark here, but you know as well as I do the world we live in. You can’t help but wonder if you made a good or a bad choice, partner-wise. Which is why it is recommended that you search for a few details about your partner’s life. It may put your mind at ease.
First things first, start small. Do a simple google search and see if something comes up. A news article here and there can reveal enough information at times. I assume it’s enough to know if your partner has ever been accused of a felony. That piece of information can always be found in the media.
Social media is another good place to search for some background information. People put almost everything on their profiles. You can see your partner’s friends and family, the people he or she surrounds with. That can say a lot about a person. Also, you have just met this person. You didn’t grow up together, you didn’t go to school together, so your lives did not intersect until now. It’s only natural to worry about these things.
But when things get suspicious, you should go a little further. Everyone has an instinct. Right or wrong, but it’s there. So if your instinct tells you to dig a little deeper, then you should listen to it. What do you have to lose? It’s not as your partner will ever find out. You have access to free public records, so you have the freedom to search through them as long as you like. Public records will not give you much, but you will at least know if your partner was married before, if he or she has children, education, etc.
Running a criminal background check should be some last resort. You can only do that when your partner is obviously hiding something when he or she is caught lying, or when he or she has strange company sometimes. All these aspects make you suspicious, and you are right to be. Which is why you can take things even further.
There are certain companies that offer their services. In exchange for a fee, they will run a background check on your partner. You will be able to find out everything you want to know. Whether you are looking for criminal records or arrest records, you will be able to have them all. The best part is that your significant other will not even know that you ran a background check on him/her. These companies have strict policies regarding confidentiality. They are very discreet in their search.
There is no shame in being suspicious about the truth. These instincts are here to keep you safe. As long as you are just trying to preserve yourself from unfortunate situations, I don’t see why you should be ashamed. There are a lot of people who don’t trust their partners. You are not the first and not the last individual that will request a criminal background check on their partner. You would be surprised to know how common this is.